Friendships are supposed to be easygoing, fun, and built on mutual respect. But sometimes, someone says or does something that makes you stop and think, Wait, is this normal? That’s exactly what happened to Allen Mitchell when his longtime Facebook friend, Christian Fitzgerald Dee, made a request that left him feeling uneasy.
Allen and Christian had been friends for years. They messaged regularly, and Allen even gave Christian his WhatsApp number, considering him a buddy. But one morning, Christian took their friendship in a direction Allen never expected. Out of the blue, Christian asked Allen to be his “best and very close friend”, someone he could share everything with.
For Allen, this request felt strange and uncomfortable. After years of what he thought was a casual friendship, Christian’s sudden desire for an intensely close bond came out of nowhere. It wasn’t just the request itself that felt off; it was the way Christian framed it, like he wanted Allen to be his confidant in every aspect of life.
But it didn’t stop there. Christian then took things a step further by asking Allen about his sexuality, whether he was straight or bisexual. To make things even more awkward, Christian sent a one-minute video to “explain” what he meant. Allen was shocked. Why was Christian, a man, asking another man such personal questions and pushing for such an intimate friendship?
Christian later claimed he was just curious about Allen’s sexuality but insisted he wasn’t gay. While curiosity is natural, Allen couldn’t shake the feeling that Christian’s behavior was inappropriate and, frankly, weird. In Allen’s words, it was “just plain stupid” for a man to ask another man these kinds of questions and push for such a close friendship out of the blue.
This situation highlights how important it is to respect boundaries in friendships. What might seem like a harmless request to one person can feel invasive and uncomfortable to another. Friendships should evolve naturally, not be forced into something deeper or more intimate without mutual agreement.
Interestingly Allen is not the only person who have been faced with such advances from Christian. After his revelation, many other young man took to the comment section to attest to this attitude of Christian and confirmed that he has also made such advances at them and it ended up the same way of him seeking to know their sexuality.
Netizens Flooded The Comment Section On Facebook to share their views and experiences:
- Don Pekin LD:
“Lol how can one be too close to another man, many things are happening.” - Lofa Julius:
“These are the ones who are quick to call others gay on Facebook.. EXPOSED!!!” - Amb Allen Mitchell (replying to Lofa Julius):
“Absolutely, they are the ones while their a$$ is widely opened. Smh.” - Yusuf Adama Sesay:
“This is very embarrassing and annoying. Thanks for the exposure!” - AB Lincon WondaBoi:
“What if the man heard that you are gay and he tryma confront you about it?? … who knows….” - Joseph Jasper Morris:
“From the conversation and his posture, I can tell something isn’t right. Stay focused brother.” - Tro Kon:
“Bestie oh bestie… na na legal loving buh we stay eating something.” - AB Lincon WondaBoi:
“Christian Fitzgerald Dee might not be gay, but this kinda screenshot proves he’s gay or wannabe. Why ask a man to be your best friend? We men don’t do that to our colleagues.. Da jue dem we can tell that one to…
And Again, Maybe Christian heard something about you and was only trying to make sure of what he heard.. But Asking Another Dude if he’s Straight Is Completely Off… is Either you are gay or wannabe…
But again, the man wanna know more about his bestie yah.” - Ma-Siata Son:
“You even encouraged him to go further by telling him ‘we are buddies’.. no correct man can ask another man these questions .. all these questions were red flags ►► to have blocked him long..” - Amb Fidel Thomas Sankara:
“Complete absolute double nonsense.” - Gracetee B. Cooper:
“U still to ley shop Anthonette Nuwoe Kpangbah.” - Philip Freeman:
“I don’t think this post was necessary even if the person in question is involved into anything of such. The question doesn’t make someone a gay and bringing your friend to public ridicule is ridiculous. Please do better next time.” - S Caspar Tarty:
“‘Can we be best friends?’ is not a man-to-man question; you should’ve blocked him after that. I felt funny just reading it.
Anyway, you young people like plenty friends; ‘you na know where you win meet somebaly.'” - Jackson Tolon:
“Brother this is serious, I struggled explaining myself to people about being straight.
There’s a guy that work with Jahmale asked to be my friend after sometimes this guy start to call me as early as 5am and I started to ask him what he’s up to till I complained him to my senior brother at their office.
Another Gospel singer from Nigeria came to me with the same attitude.
Brother we just need to be careful who we allow in our circle.” - Pushpa Nurwin George:
“I don’t really see nothing in this message.
I see people saying why he even have to say can we be friends? C’mon now it’s obvious that you can see a human of your gender and just want to befriend them although I understand that the society now is messed up.
I think you should have allow him speak up more before posting this because even me, I can see a female and just want to befriend her and coming to the part where he ask u about being straight, maybe he just wanted to know the kind of person you are or perhaps someone must have told him something contrary about u.
Just my thoughts tho” - Isaac W. Toee Jr.:
“Bro, I didn’t enjoy your move on this. You should had allowed him to say more.
Next time pls be patient and hold your peace let the person vomit more..” - Solomon L. Sanders:
“Christian Dee again? This guy is something else..” - Amb Allen Mitchell (Author):
“Solomon L. Sanders I am receiving many msgs that it is his usual habits.” - Solomon L. Sanders:
“Amb Allen Mitchell I know the guy. But I will call you to tell you what I know about him. He’s very bad.” - W Wokie Weah:
“What’s up with u? You straight isn’t a gay question, besides how did you even know asking you straight is a gay question?
Don’t tarnish ur frd reputation because of simple question you didn’t understand.
Christian Fitzgerald Dee hope you know ur reputation is involved, this is an allegation and don’t need to see it as.” - Bob K Queminee:
“W Wokie Weah I say. This guy – Christian Fitzgerald Dee and myself usually chat and he always says I’m promiscuous tho.”
The question is, is Christian the new sexuality police or he just says that when he becomes unsuccessful to lure his friends into his devilish act?
